Talking About Ethics (Part 5)

By Linda Fisher Thornton

Talking about controversial topics has become a daunting task, but there are some things we can do, individually and collectively, to improve those difficult conversations. The important points below may be useful to review as ground rules for discussing potentially emotionally charged issues:

CHARACTER

Agree on the values that are important to honor. Stay centered in that list of ethical values, not the opinions and wants of each “side”

TEMPERAMENT

Follow ground rules that include mutual respect, listening and avoidance of blaming, labeling or attacking

JUDGMENT

Use good thinking, actively questioning your own assumptions, biases, and motives

INCLUSION

Consider all humans equally important with equal rights

CARE

Demonstrate care for all others involved in the conversation, and really listen to what they think is important

CONSTITUENT – AWARENESS

Consider the full impact on all constituents, paying special attention to those constituents not represented in the conversation

LONG-TERM IMPACT

Think about the long-term impact of decisions, in addition to the short-term benefits

EXPLORING MULTIPLE VARIABLES

Avoid oversimplifying issues by exploring many different variables related to the issue

USING A SYSTEMS APPROACH

Move beyond simple cause-and-effect thinking when discussing solutions. Think about the issue in terms of how it fits into bigger systems, and how other variables beyond those in the conversation can impact outcomes

Using these ground rules can keep conversations focused on the issues, making it easier to learn from one another and avoid conflict.